There is a huge place inside a woman’s heart for deep, meaningful relationships. In these relationships, women experience the great joys and sorrows of life. This is a safe place for women to be women. “Friendships need to be nurtured and guarded and fought for… We love our friends by pursuing them” (Eldredge). Spend time with friends, honestly and truly listening to them.
Women are jealous, loyal, and devoted to their friends. We are jealous when others come in and “take over” our friends. We are devoted to the things and people we love. Women do not “talk smack” about someone else’s friend. If a woman hears someone talking about their friend, it’s not going to be pretty. Friendships are God’s way of letting us care for others. He shows His trust in us through giving us someone else’s heart to protect, care for, and love.
We need friends to help us through tough times. They are our comfort and support, especially if they are Christian friends who are praying for us. Sometimes our friends have been through the same thing that we are going through and we do not even know it. I went through a tough time in my life, not knowing why, until I met a girl, within a year of it happening, that was going through a similar situation. It was then that I realized why I had gone through it. She was there for me and I was there for her; we were able to support each other through some of the most difficult times of our teenage years.
“True friendship is opposed” (Eldredge). There is always someone who is going to hurt us. Someone who’s goal is not for our happiness but for their own. Although that is true, it is also true that no one was created to live life alone. We need friends no matter how hard or easy life is at the moment. At times when life is going smoothly, prepare for some kind of destruction. It is then that we will need our friends; if we have alienated them, then we are going to be on our own.
Everyone faces the struggle of not making the friendship all about them. The true goal should be to share our lives with others and truly listen to their needs. When we open ourselves up, there is always the chance that we will be hurt. Giving people our heart and hoping that they will not break it is one of the most difficult things to do. No matter what happens, God will be there to take all of that hurt. “God wastes nothing. Not our joys, not our sorrows – nothing” (Nicole Johnson). There is a purpose and a plan with everything that happens. He will reveal the purpose in His timing, and it is only then that we will understand why we were hurt. Most of the time it is making us stronger people in the end.
Healthy friends are the kind of friends who try and help us achieve our goals and dreams. They want to see us progress in our desires and passions; sometimes they even show us things we did not know about ourselves. Occasionally we decide to pursue those things, thankful for friends that cared enough to show us our new passion. Our friends may not agree with all of our morals or values, but they will respect them because they respect and love us.
The most important and best friendship in our lives is the one we share with God when we become Christians. He always has our best interest in mind and will never leave us. We know we have someone who is always around to help guide us through life, someone who will listen when we talk, not judging us if we screw up, but loving us unconditionally, showing forgiveness always.
When a woman partners together with God, bringing life in the world by, offering, loving, and inviting others to become who they were meant to be, it is then that she is who she is meant to be. She is a true friend. She offers freedom and life to others to be themselves. Friends need to encourage one another, bringing life into people around them.
Works Cited
Eldredge, John and Stasi. Captivating. Nashville: Nelson Impact , 2005.
God. Holy Bible. n.d.
Feb 15, 2010 - Kelly Isner
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